Self Improvement

The blueprint is not a magic solution if you’re not addressing the basics like prayer, sleep, nutrition, and exercise. Anyone seeking to change their life must first establish a solid foundation for self-development. If you’re struggling with these fundamental areas of your life, this system alone won’t miraculously solve your problems.

It’s simply a gateway to a better life inshaAllah, if you can put in the work.

Spending some time optimising your life 🔧, strengthening your intentions 🎯, and eliminating toxic influences 🚫 is a necessary prerequisite for being able to change the trajectory of your life 📈. We ask Allah for strength and guidance to all that which is better for us.

But remember, just as a sapling grows slowly yet steadily into a mighty tree, so too can you grow in these areas. Be patient with yourself, for Allah is patient with His servants.

Start with small, consistent steps in the right direction, and in time, with Allah’s permission, you’ll see the fruits of your efforts. Remember, every journey begins with a single step, so take that step today, no matter how small it may seem.

It was reported in an authentic narration that the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:

“أَحَبُّ الْأَعْمَالِ إِلَى اللَّهِ أَدْوَمُهَا وَإِنْ قَلَّ”

“The most beloved deeds to Allah are those done regularly, even if they are small.”

[رواه البخاري: ٦٤٦٥، ومسلم: ٧٨٢]

This hadith emphasizes the importance of consistency in our actions, even if they seem minor. It encourages us to establish and maintain good habits, no matter how small, as they are more beloved to Allah than grand gestures done sporadically.

“We don’t rise to the level of our goals, we fall to the level of our systems and habits.”

— Atomic Habits

It’s not enough to simply set lofty goals; we must build the daily practices and routines that will inevitably lead us to those goals, with Allah’s permission.

Your journey to this point was not by chance, but by the decree of Allah. Turn to Him in supplication, seeking His guidance and strength to persevere through challenges and overcome obstacles. As Allah says in the Qur’an:

“وَقَالَ رَبُّكُمُ ادْعُونِي أَسْتَجِبْ لَكُمْ”

“And your Lord says, ‘Call upon Me; I will respond to you.’”

[غافر: ٦٠]

Remember that with every difficulty comes ease, as Allah promises:

“فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا، إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا”

“For indeed, with hardship [will come] ease. Indeed, with hardship [will come] ease.”

[الشرح: ٥-٦]

Place your trust in your Creator. He is the best of planners. 🤲🏻

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Time Management

This is the first step to improving your life. We all have the same 24 hours in a day. How we use this time is what separates us.

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Plan your life

“Show me your calendar and I’ll show you your priorities.”

An empty calendar is a sign as clear as day that you have no priorities, no goals, and no direction.

Enough said.

Don’t waste unnecessary time setting up the perfect calendar. Life happens. You need a tool that takes away the hassle of manually re-organising your day.

We recommend using ReclaimAI for this.

1. Setup recurring habits and events
2. Block out your non-negotiable commitments first (e.g., prayer times, work hours, family time, sleep)
3. Block out time for deep work (rejecting meetings, emails, and other distractions)
4. Share your calendar with your closest family members (spouse, parents) so they can see your schedule and plan accordingly

If you’ve setup your habits and events correctly, ReclaimAI will automatically reorganise your day based on shifting responsibilities and emergencies.

Remember, your body, your family, your spouse, and your children all have a right over you. By sharing your calendar with close family members, you can better coordinate schedules and avoid conflicts. They’ll know when you’re available and when you’re busy, making it easier to plan family activities and manage expectations.

The goal is not to fill every moment but to create a balanced schedule that allows for worship, work, rest, and mindful connection with family and friends.

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Tracking Tasks

Use Todoist or Tiktik to quickly add tasks (project, shopping list, etc.)

Both apps offer desktop and mobile versions to help you manage tasks. Tiktik has a great voice mode feature that lets you instantly add tasks by speaking - perfect for capturing things on the go.

Download either app to start organizing your tasks efficiently.

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Habit Building & Breaking

Use Rise App to track and break bad habits:

• Scientific approach based on 66-day habit formation research
• Track multiple habits simultaneously
• Visual progress tracking
• Accountability features

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Deep Work & Focus

The early morning hours are precious for deep, focused work. The Prophet (ﷺ) made dua for his ummah saying:

“اللَّهُمَّ بَارِكْ لِأُمَّتِي فِي بُكُورِهَا”

“O Allah, bless my ummah in their early mornings.”

[رواه الترمذي وأبو داود]

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Post-Fajr Deep Work Strategy

1. Immediate Action: After Fajr prayer, avoid going back to sleep

2. Light Movement: Do light stretching or a brief walk to fully wake up

3. Quran & Dua: Before starting work:

   • Recite your daily portion of Quran

   • Make this powerful dua for barakah in your time:

   “اللَّهُمَّ بَارِكْ لِأُمَّتِي فِي بُكُورِهَا”

   “O Allah, bless my ummah in their early mornings.”

   And:

   “اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْنِي نَافِعًا لِعِبَادِكَ، وَاجْعَلْ عَمَلِي خَالِصًا لِوَجْهِكَ الْكَرِيمِ”

   “O Allah, make me beneficial for Your servants, and make my deeds purely for Your Noble Face.”

4. Deep Work Session: Begin your focused work while:

   • Your mind is fresh
   • The world is quiet
   • Barakah is abundant
   • Willpower is at its peak

Aim to schedule 2-4 solid hours of deep work in this blessed time when:

• Distractions are minimal
• Your energy is highest
• Your focus is sharpest

Perform Deep Work with Pomodoros:

1. Standard Pomodoros (50 min work / 10 min break)

   • 2 hours = 2 pomodoros (50-10, 50-10)
   • 3 hours = 3 pomodoros (50-10, 50-10, 50-10)
   • 4 hours = 4 pomodoros (50-10, 50-10, 50-10, 50-10)

2. Intense Pomodoros (90 min work / 15 min break)

   • 2 hours = 1 pomodoro (90-15)
   • 3 hours = 2 pomodoros (90-15, 90-15)
   • 4 hours = 2.5 pomodoros (90-15, 90-15, 90)

Choose the format that works best for your energy levels and focus capacity. Some people prefer shorter intervals to maintain consistent focus, while others work better with longer, more intense sessions.

Disruptions kill focus. It’s your responsibility to protect your time.

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Saying No

Often times, we say yes to things that we don’t really want to do, simply because we don’t want to disappoint people or we feel obligated.

While being a people pleaser is not necessarily a bad thing, it can be a major time suck.

If you find yourself in this position, it’s important to start setting boundaries and learning to say no.

This doesn’t mean you have to be rude or mean, it simply means you need to be honest about your time and commitments, and not feel the need to please everyone.

If they keep pushing, just remember: your calendar is your source of truth. If you don’t put something there, it’s not going to get done. You can make it public (don’t worry, they won’t see any sensitive personal events if you’ve configured them to ‘private’ in your calendar), so people know you have other commitments.

Here are some tips on how to say no:

1. Keep it real: Just be straight up about why you can’t do something. Like, “Hey, I’m swamped right now. Maybe another time?” or “My schedule’s packed to the brim” works just fine to let them know you’re not available right now.

2. Throw out some options: If you can’t make it, maybe suggest something else so that they can still get what they need. “Can’t make it this week, but next week could work if you’re down for that?”

3. Stand your ground (respectfully): Be firm about your limits without being a jerk. “I get you need this by Friday, but there’s no way I can pull that off, man.”

4. Cut to the chase, but don’t be a tool: Be straight up, but cool about it. “I can’t jump on that project right now, but hit me up later if you still need a hand.”

Re-frame your perspective. You’re not saying you “can’t” do something, you’re just saying you “can’t” do something at this time.

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Energy and Performance

“Show me your fridge, and I’ll show you your health.”

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Food

What you consume is just as important as what you do. Our bodies are the vehicles that transport us through this world, and we need to ensure they’re fuelled properly.

If you have dreams but lack the energy to achieve them, you’re not going to get very far.

Here are some things you can do to improve your energy levels:

1. Get enough sleep
2. Control your food intake (If you can fast, do so)
3. Exercise regularly (Even if it’s just 15 minutes a day)
4. Manage stress (Pray, seek help, and take breaks)
5. Stay hydrated (Drink water throughout the day)
6. Get enough sunlight (Sunlight is a natural source of energy)
7. Get enough sleep (Yes, I know this is mentioned twice, but it’s important)

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Testosterone

For men, testosterone is crucial for energy, motivation, muscle growth, and overall wellbeing. Here are evidence-based ways to optimize your testosterone levels naturally:

1. Lift Heavy Weights: Compound exercises like squats and deadlifts boost testosterone
2. Get Adequate Sleep: Most testosterone release happens during sleep
3. Optimize Vitamin D: Get sun exposure or supplement (with K2)
4. Eat Enough Healthy Fats: Include eggs, olive oil, and fatty fish
5. Minimize Stress: High cortisol reduces testosterone
6. Avoid Endocrine Disruptors: Stay away from plastics, especially BPA
7. Maintain Healthy Body Fat: Too much body fat increases estrogen
8. Zinc and Magnesium: Essential minerals for testosterone production

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Beneficial Physical Activities

Physical activities not only improve your health but also develop valuable life skills and mental fortitude:

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Recommended Activities

• Swimming: Full-body workout, improves cardiovascular health
• Archery: Develops focus, patience, and precision
• Horse-Riding: Builds confidence and leadership skills
• Martial Arts: Self-defense, discipline, and mental toughness
• Calisthenics: Bodyweight exercises, no equipment needed
• Bouldering: Problem-solving while building strength
• Team Sports: Social skills and strategic thinking

The Prophet ﷺ emphasized the importance of these physical activities, particularly swimming and horse-riding:

“علموا أولادكم السباحة والرماية وركوب الخيل”

“Teach your children swimming, archery and horse riding.”

[عمر بن الخطاب رضي الله عنه]

And in another narration:

“كل شيء ليس من ذكر الله فهو لهو ولعب إلا أربع خصال: مشي الرجل بين الغرضين، وتأديبه فرسه، وملاعبته أهله، وتعلم السباحة”

“Everything that is not the remembrance of Allah is frivolity and play except for four things: A man walking between two goals (practicing archery), training his horse, playing with his family, and learning to swim.”

[الطبراني]

These activities complement your professional growth by:

• Building discipline and routine
• Improving focus and concentration
• Developing problem-solving skills
• Reducing stress and anxiety
• Boosting energy and productivity

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Sleep

Sleep is slept on. It’s probably THE most important thing you work on to improve your energy levels. Without adequate sleep, you’ll suffer from fatigue, lack of motivation, and poor cognitive function.

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Planning Your Sleep Around Fajr

1. First, check SalahTime to find your local Fajr prayer time
2. Use StartSleeping’s Calculator to work backwards and find your ideal bedtime
3. Add 15-20 minutes to your wake-up time to ensure you can perform wudu and prepare for prayer comfortably

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Sleep Quality Rules

Follow the 10-3-2-1 rule for better sleep quality:

• 10 hours before bed - ❌NO caffeine ☕
• 3 hours before bed - ❌NO food 🍽️
• 2 hours before bed - ❌NO work 🧑‍💻
• 1 hour before bed - ❌NO screens 📱💻

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Self Esteem and Confidence

“Show me your friends, and I’ll show you your future.”

Low confidence and low self-esteem are major killers of success.

Surround yourself with people who lift you up, and avoid those who drag you down.

A toxic environment chains you down, while good company inspires you to reach for greatness.

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Importance of Good Companionship

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

“الْمَرْءُ عَلَى دِينِ خَلِي��ِهِ، فَلْيَنْظُرْ أَحَدُكُمْ مَنْ يُخَالِلُ”

“A man follows the religion of his friend; so each one should consider whom he makes his friend.”

[رواه أبو داود: 4815، الترمذي: 2378]

Allah (ﷻ) says in the Quran:

“الْأَخِلَّاءُ يَوْمَئِذٍ بَعْضُهُمْ لِبَعْضٍ عَدُوٌّ إِلَّا الْمُتَّقِينَ”

“Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except al-Muttaqun (the pious).”

[الزخرف:٦٧]

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Giving and Receiving Advice

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

“الدين النصيحة”

“Religion is sincere advice.” [مسلم]

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

“المؤمن مرآة أخيه، فإذا رأى فيه عيبا نصحه”

“A believer is a mirror for his brother. When he sees a fault in him, he corrects it.”

[أبو دود]

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Characteristics of Good Friends

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

“خير الناس أنفعهم للناس”

“The best of people are those that bring the most benefit to the rest of mankind.”

[الدارقطني]

Allah (ﷻ) says in the Quran:

“وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ ۚ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ”

“The believing men and believing women are allies of one another. They enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong.”

[التوبة:٧١]

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Choosing Friends Wisely

The Prophet (ﷺ) said:

“لا تصاحب إلا مؤمنا، ولا يأكل طعامك إلا تقي”

“Do not accompany except a believer, and do not serve your food except to one with Taqwa.”

[الترمذي]

Allah (ﷻ) says in the Quran:

“وَاصْبِرْ نَفْسَكَ مَعَ الَّذِينَ يَدْعُونَ رَبَّهُم بِالْغَدَاةِ وَالْعَشِيِّ يُِيدُونَ وَجْهَهُ”

“And keep yourself patient [by being] with those who call upon their Lord in the morning and the evening, seeking His countenance.”

[الكهف:٢٨]

This journey will be made easier, by the permission of Allah, if you strive to mix with and maintain friendship with the right group of brothers and sisters; those who will remind you when you fall short; who will motivate you when you feel down; who will encourage you when you need that little push to get over the finish line.

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Managing your Device Usage

Screen time is a double edged sword. It can be used for great benefit, or great detriment.

The following are some tools can help manage your device usage:

1. ScreenZen - Free mobile app for both iOS and Android to help you manage your phone screen time, block distracting apps, and more.
2. Opal - Paid mobile and desktop app for iOS users to help you manage your online time, block distracting websites, and more.
3. One-Sec - Free browser extension for desktop/laptop to help you manage your online time, block distracting websites, and more.

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Managing Your Online Presence

In today’s digital age, it’s crucial to extend the principles of good companionship and avoiding harm to our online activities. We should re-normalize not allowing anyone into our sphere of influence before vetting, as too much fitnah (trial or temptation) can arise from indiscriminately listening to anyone and everyone online.

To protect ourselves from harmful content and negative influences (or so-called ‘influencers’) online, we can utilise various browser extensions and tools:

1. Tahir: This extension blurs images across the internet, helping to prevent you from getting hooked or looking at Haraam content unintentionally.

2. Unhook: This tool removes recommended videos, Shorts, and Trending sections from YouTube. It helps minimize YouTube to just the verified channels one should follow for both Deen (religion) and Dunya (worldly matters), preventing misguidance and exposure to potentially Haraam content.

3. BlockSite: Allows you to completely block specific websites and includes built-in filters for adult content, helping you avoid harmful or inappropriate websites entirely.

4. Ad Blockers: Using browsers that block ads by default (such as Firefox) or installing ad-blocking extensions can help eliminate all ads everywhere online, reducing exposure to potentially inappropriate or misleading content.

5. Click to Remove Element: This extension allows you to remove elements from the page with a single click, helping you avoid distractions and focus on the content you want to see.

6. Social media specific: X (Twitter):

   • Block accounts surrounding politics and Islamic deviation (known deviants)
   • Add as many words to your ‘muted words’ list to keep the algorithm from showing you content you don’t want to see -> Guide on how to do this
   • Last resort: Remove The ‘For You’ Tab: An extension that removes the “For You” tab, helping you avoid getting sucked into the algorithm and instead focus on reliable and verified accounts.

By implementing these tools and being mindful of our online interactions, we can create a safer, more beneficial digital environment that aligns with our values and supports our journey of self-improvement, inshaAllah.

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Managing Your Relationships

In our hyper-connected world, it’s easy to get overwhelmed by the constant stream of messages across various platforms. This can lead to decreased productivity and increased stress. To manage your digital communications more effectively, consider using a tool like Texts.

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Centralizing Your Messages

Texts is an application that allows you to:

1. Consolidate all your messaging apps in one place (including WhatsApp, Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, and more)
2. Set specific times for checking and responding to messages
3. Prioritize important conversations
4. Mute or snooze less urgent chats

By dedicating only a couple of times a day to answer all messages across all platforms, you can:

• Reduce distractions throughout the day
• Improve focus on important tasks
• Maintain better work-life balance
• Respond more thoughtfully to messages

Remember, constant availability doesn’t equate to better relationships. By setting boundaries and managing your digital communications effectively, you can actually improve the quality of your interactions and reduce stress.

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Reminder

As Muslims, while utilising modern tools to manage our communications, it’s important to remember the Islamic principles of good communication:

1. Speak with kindness: Allah says in the Quran:

   “وَقُل لِّعِبَادِي يَقُولُوا الَّتِي هِيَ أَحسَنُ”

   “And tell My servants to say that which is best.”

   [الإسراء: ٥٣]

2. Respond in a timely manner: The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) emphasized the importance of responding to greetings:

   “إِذَا حُيِّيتُمْ بِتَحِيَّةٍ فَحَيُّو�� بِأَحْسَنَ مِنْهَا أَوْ رُدُّوهَا”

   “When you are greeted with a greeting, greet [in return] with one better than it or [at least] return it [in a like manner].”

   [النساء: ٨٦

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3. Be mindful of your words: As the saying goes:

   “The tongue has no bones, but it is strong enough to break a heart, so be careful with your words.”

   This wisdom aligns with the Islamic teaching of being cautious with our speech. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

   “مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلْيَقُلْ خَيْرًا أَوْ لِيَصْمُتْ”

   “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him speak good or remain silent.”

   [صحيح البخاري: ٦٤٧٥]

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How to get things DONE (on days you don’t feel like it)

Some days, we all feel like doing absolutely nothing. But here’s the catch - success isn’t about waiting for motivation to strike; it’s about taking action, even on those “blah” days. 😴

Here’s how you can hack your way through:

➡️ Start small – No one needs to scale mountains first thing in the morning. Just a 5-minute task can kick things off.

➡️ Limit distractions - Put your phone on silent or in another room.

➡️ Ditch the perfectionism – Not everything needs to be a masterpiece. Progress is the real MVP.

➡️ Create tiny wins – Celebrate finishing that email draft or organizing your workspace.

The goal isn’t perfection; it’s about getting just one thing done. And funny enough, once you get started, you’ll find the motivation you were waiting for. It’s all about momentum—once it gets going, even the toughest days don’t stand a chance!

Keep moving, even if it’s inch by inch! 💪

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7 ways to unblock yourself

1. The 5-Minute Rule: The hardest part of a task is getting started. Try this:

   1. Set a timer for 5 minutes
   2. Work on the task you’ve put off
   3. After 5 minutes, you can stop (if you want) 90% of the time, the momentum of starting is enough to keep you going.

2. Set limits on learning time: Growth: learn -> apply -> learn -> apply Procrastination: learn -> learn -> learn -> learn Excessive learning becomes procrastination. For each hour studying, spend an hour applying.

3. Action leads to motivation: Many people think it goes like this: Motivation -> Action When in reality, it’s more like this: Small Action -> Motivation -> More Action

4. Make the First Move: If something takes less than 2 minutes, do it now. Don’t let some mundane task gnaw at the back of your mind for weeks.

5. Eat the Frog: Do the hardest task of the day first. Get that weight off. The rest of the day will seem easy in comparison.

6. Remove digital clutter: Being surrounded by digital distractions gives you more excuses to procrastinate. Here’s a focus toolkit:

   1. Phone in airplane mode
   2. Cold Turkey web blocker on
   3. All open tabs are relevant to your current task

7. Remove physical clutter: A cluttered environment = cluttered mind. Before you sit down to work, get your surroundings in order. This will allow you to laser focus on the task at hand.

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Reminder

In Islam, we are encouraged to be productive and make the most of our time. The Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) said:

“اغْتَنِمْ خَمْسًا قَبْلَ خَمْسٍ: شَبَابَكَ قَبْلَ هَرَمِكَ، وَصِحَّتَكَ قَبْلَ سَقَمِكَ، وَغِنَاكَ قَبْلَ فَقْرِكَ، وَفَرَاغَكَ قَبْلَ شُغْلِكَ، وَحَيَاتَكَ قَبْلَ مَوْتِكَ”

“Take advantage of five before five: your youth before your old age, your health before your sickness, your wealth before your poverty, your free time before you are preoccupied, and your life before your death.”

[Reported by Al-Hakim, who graded it as Sahih]

We are reminded of the importance of using our time and energy wisely, even when we don’t feel like it. By pushing through our lack of motivation and striving to be productive, we are fulfilling our responsibility as Muslims to make the most of the blessings Allah has given us.

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Reprogram Subconscious

Sometimes we need reminders to reframe our thoughts and feelings in a more positive and productive way. Here’s a guide to help reprogram your mindset when facing different emotional states:

What am I feeling?	Positive reframe
My day has been ruined by X	”Perfect days don’t exist, but progress is always possible. This setback is temporary and doesn’t define my entire day. Allah will still reward me for my good intention of planning this day, even if things didn’t go as expected. Every moment is a fresh opportunity to reset and earn Allah’s pleasure. He tests those whom he loves the most.”
I’m being Lazy/Procrastinating	”If you wait for the perfect time to execute, you will wait forever. Progress starts with imperfect action. Just start and do what you can today. With the help of Allah, I am capable of creating my own momentum and achieving greatness!”
I’m scared and avoiding hard things	”The hero and the coward feel the same fear. Cowards don’t take action. You do. It feels scary because it’s unfamiliar, not because you’re incapable. I ask Allah to continue to give me the strength and courage to overcome any challenge.”
I failed	”Each failure is a step forward. Mistakes aren’t the end, they’re lessons. Allah gives me opportunities to learn and grow from these tests. I am growing!”
I’m furious	”My anger is a sign that something matters deeply to me. Take a deep breath. Remember that Allah is testing my patience and self-control. Communication is key. Don’t bottle things up. Talk to someone who will listen.”
I’m exhausted	”I’m giving it my all. Allah never burdens me beyond what I can bear. Take a break if needed. But don’t give up on the things that matter. Pushing beyond one’s limits is a sign of strength!”
I’m disappointed	”Delays are not denials. The journey may take time, but the destination is worth it. Allah knows what is best for me.”
I feel stuck	”Feeling stuck means I’m about to discover something new. I’m exploring different angles and Allah will guide me towards a breakthrough.”
I’m generally overwhelmed	”Being overwhelmed is a sign I’m in demand. Allah trusts me with these responsibilities, and I can handle them with His help.”
I’m overwhelmed due to imbalance	”I need to reassess and realign. This feeling is a reminder to restore balance in my life. Allah’s tests help me grow through challenges.”
I’m feeling depressed	”This is a temporary low. Allah is turning my trial into a way to raise my rank. Every hardship is followed by ease.”
I’m embarrassed	”Awareness is growth. I’m learning, and my embarrassment is a sign I’m becoming more mindful. Allah helps me through self-reflection.”
I’m rejected	”Rejection doesn’t define me. Perhaps I’ve been overlooked or misunderstood, but Allah knows my true worth. He may be protecting me from something lesser.”
I’m nervous	”This means I care, and I can channel this energy to do my best! But it’s not the end of the world if I fail!”
I feel lost	”I’m not lost, I’m searching. Allah has a plan, and He guides those who seek. Raise your hands to Allah, for help and guidance.”
I’m sick	”All illness is a form of cleansing and purification. Allah is removing my sins through this.”
I feel stupid	”I’m not stupid, I just need more resources or tools. Allah has blessed me with the ability to learn and grow. I can find a way! There’s no shame in asking for help.”
I feel destroyed	”This is just a setback, not the end. Allah is giving me an opportunity to rebuild stronger and better than before.”
I’m drained	”I’m not drained, I’m recharging. Take a break. The rest will refuel me for what comes next, and Allah grants me the strength to continue.”
I have to do this	”I don’t have to; I get to. Allah has blessed me with this opportunity to take action and grow. It’s a privilege to be able to perform. Many are not blessed with the same.”

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Preventing and Recovering from Burnout

Allah (ﷻ) says in the Qur’an:

“لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلَّا وُسْعَهَا”

“Allah does not burden a soul beyond that it can bear.”

[البقرة: ٢٨٦]

Burnout doesn’t happen overnight, and neither does recovery. While quick fixes like “take a bath” or “read a book” may provide temporary relief, true recovery requires systematic changes aligned with both our physical needs and spiritual well-being.

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1. Embrace Different Types of Rest

Rest is multifaceted in Islam. The Prophet ﷺ demonstrated various forms of rest:

1. Physical Rest - Quality sleep following the Sunnah (Your body has a right over you)
2. Mental Rest - Quiet reflection and dhikr
3. Social Rest - Time with family and righteous companions
4. Spiritual Rest - Voluntary Prayer and reciting the Qur’an
5. Sensory Rest - Reducing stimulation, especially before Fajr and after Isha
6. Emotional Rest - Spending time with trusted friends who uplift and remind you of Allah’s mercy
7. Creative Rest - Engaging in halal hobbies and beneficial activities to unwind the mind and de-stress

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2. Prioritize Quality Sleep

The Prophet ﷺ emphasized the importance of sleep, with specific recommendations:

• Sleep early after Isha
• Wake for Tahajjud if able
• Take a midday nap (Qaylulah)

Invest in:

• A comfortable bed and sleeping environment
• Maintaining consistent sleep/wake times
• Following the Sunnah of sleeping on your right side

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3. Set Clear Boundaries

The Prophet ﷺ organized his time effectively:

• Time for worship
• Time for family
• Time for community
• Time for rest

Implement a “shutdown ritual” before Maghrib:

• Clean your workspace
• Plan tomorrow’s priorities
• Complete pending tasks or note them for tomorrow
• Transition to family and worship time

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4. Learn to Say “No” with Wisdom

The Prophet ﷺ taught us about setting boundaries while maintaining good character. Before committing to something, ask yourself:

• Will this bring me closer to Allah?
• Does this align with my priorities and responsibilities?
• Can I fulfill this commitment while maintaining my existing obligations?

Use the “tomorrow morning” test: If you’re invited to do something, ask yourself, “Would I do this if it was tomorrow morning after Fajr?“

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5. Simplify Your Responsibilities

Follow the principle of ihsan (excellence) while being realistic:

1. Eliminate - Remove tasks that don’t benefit your deen or dunya
2. Automate - Use permissible tools to handle routine tasks
3. Delegate - Share responsibilities when appropriate, as the Prophet ﷺ delegated tasks to his companions

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6. Create Tech-Free Times

Designate sacred times for disconnecting from technology:

• During prayer times
• After Isha prayer
• Family meals
• The first hour after waking

Try the “Peaceful Hour”: Set aside 60 minutes daily for worship and reflection without any devices.

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Additional Islamic Principles for Preventing Burnout

1. Take Regular Breaks: The Prophet ﷺ said: “Indeed your body has a right over you.” Break your day with the five prayers.

2. Single-Task with Ihsan: Focus on one task with excellence rather than multitasking poorly.

3. Move Daily: Physical activity was part of the Prophet’s ﷺ daily life. Even a short walk can help refresh your mind and body.

4. Build a Support Network: Maintain connections with righteous companions who remind you of Allah.

5. Accept Human Limitations: Strive for ihsan (excellence) while accepting that perfection belongs only to Allah.

Remember the hadith:

“إِنَّ هَذَا الدِّينَ مَتِينٌ فَأَوْغِلْ فِيهِ بِرِفْقٍ”

“Indeed this religion is firm, so enter into it gently.”

[رواه البيهقي]

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Balancing Family and Responsibilities

As Muslims, we have multiple rights and obligations to fulfill - to Allah, to our families, to our work commitments, and to ourselves. While the common advice of “family first” seems noble, the reality requires more nuance and wisdom.

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Understanding Priority of Rights

The Prophet ﷺ taught us that different people around us have different rights over us. We should fulfill these rights according to their proper priority:

1. Rights of Allah - Our obligations to our Creator take precedence
2. Contractual Obligations - Fulfilling our agreements and contracts
3. Family Rights - Taking care of our family’s needs
4. Community Rights - Helping our community and neighbours

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Handling Family Needs

When family needs arise during your planned activities:

1. Assess the Urgency:

   • Is this a genuine emergency?
   • Can it wait until after your current commitment?
   • Are others available to help?

2. Consider Your Obligations:

   • Do you have contractual commitments?
   • Will rescheduling impact others significantly?
   • Can you find a win-win solution?

3. Communicate Clearly:

   • Explain your situation respectfully
   • Offer alternative solutions
   • Keep all parties informed

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Working with Your Spouse

Marriage in Islam is a partnership for both dunya and akhirah. When implementing productivity systems:

1. Share Your Goals:

   • Discuss your aspirations and plans
   • Seek their input and support
   • Align your schedules where possible

2. Be Flexible:

   • Build buffer time for unexpected needs
   • Adjust your routine to complement theirs
   • Remember that rigidity often leads to conflict

3. Support Each Other:

   • Help them achieve their goals too
   • Celebrate each other’s progress
   • Make dua for one another’s success

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي”

“The best of you are those who are best to their families, and I am the best of you to my family.”

[الترمذي: ٣٨٩٥]

Be mindful of your actions and words. Good communication goes a long way. Your words can make or break the relationship (especially if you have high aspirations).

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7 powerful phrases to strengthen your relationship:

1. Open Communication:

   “No topic is off-limits. No matter how tough or uncomfortable, we talk it out.”

2. Emotional Transparency:

   “I promise to let you know when something bothers me. I won’t bury or hide it from you.”

3. Direct Communication:

   “If we want to talk about something serious, we won’t text. We’ll call or talk in person.”

4. Empathy & Support:

   “I promise to always take your pain seriously. If it hurts you, it matters to me. We’ll do our best to please Allah and each other.”

5. Problem Solving:

   “I won’t take space to avoid problems. We can learn, compromise, & work together.”

6. Accepting Differences:

   “We’ve both got different needs; none are better, worse, or unreasonable. Just different. Allah has created us differently.”

7. United Front:

   “Our challenging patterns are the enemy, not each other. You’re my teammate. Let’s find a compromise that we’re both happy with.”

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Creating a Sustainable System

1. Set Realistic Expectations:

   • Don’t overcommit yourself
   • Build in flexibility for family time
   • Account for regular family obligations

2. Establish Clear Boundaries:

   • Communicate your work hours
   • Define emergency situations
   • Set aside dedicated family time

3. Review and Adjust:

   • Regularly assess if your system works
   • Get feedback from family members
   • Make necessary adjustments

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Building Self-Discipline Like a Muscle

Think of self-discipline like building muscle. Just as you get a “pump” during a workout that gives you a glimpse of your future physique, each time you push through resistance and do what needs to be done—especially when you don’t feel like it—you’re getting a glimpse of your future disciplined self.

Every single time you:

• Start working when you’d rather scroll social media
• Begin that difficult task when you’d rather procrastinate
• Stay focused when distractions call
• Keep going when motivation is low

You’re not just completing a task—you’re literally strengthening your self-discipline muscle. Each victory, no matter how small, builds this crucial skill.

Over time, just like physical training, self-discipline becomes your natural state. You’ll find yourself relying less on motivation and more on this cultivated strength of character. It may sound mechanical, but that’s exactly what makes it powerful—it becomes your default operating system inshaAllah.